Men's porn use recovery program WOMEN'S PARTNER BETRAYAL PROGRAM Navigating a Loved One's Porn Use

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  • When you first find out about partner's pornography use, you may feel many different feelings; betrayal being a common experience. You may feel frustrated, angry, surprised, confused, unwanted/rejected, etc. This is normal. Before making any permanent decisions about your relationship, wait until you take the time to get help to understand the complexity of your feelings and your partner's use.

  • YOUR PARTNER NEEDS TO COMMIT TO CHANGE. YOUR RESPONSIBILITY IS TO SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR HEALING AND BOUNDARIES. YOUR SEEKING HELP AND EMOTIONAL WELL-BEING WILL ALLOW YOU TO POSITION YOURSELF IN A PLACE THAT WILL PROTECT YOU FROM EMOTIONAL HARM AND ENCOURAGE YOUR PARTNER ON THE ROAD TO RECOVERY.

  • IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT THAT YOUR PARTNER IS USING PORNOGRAPHY AND IT DOES NOT CHANGE HOW YOUR PARTNER FEELS ABOUT YOU. THERE IS NOTHING YOU COULD HAVE CHANGED ABOUT YOURSELF THAT WOULD HAVE PREVENTED YOUR PARTNER FROM VIEWING PORNOGRAPHY AND YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR CHOICE TO VIEW IT. THOUGH PORNOGRAPHY USE COMES WITH STRONG FEELINGS OF BETRAYAL, IT LIKELY IS NOT AN ACTIVE CHOICE OF BETRAYAL ON THE PART OF YOUR PARTNER AND THEY NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP TO UNDERSTAND WHY THEY USE IT AND HOW TO STOP USING IT.

  • THIS IS A DEEPLY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. THE BEST FIRST STEP IS TO TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL WHO CAN HELP YOU PROCESS YOUR FEELINGS AND DECIDE WHO YOU CAN TURN TO FOR EMOTIONAL SUPPORT- SOMETIMES TURNING TO OUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY MEMBERS IS NOT ALWAYS A PRODUCTIVE FIRST CHOICE BUT IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOT BE ALONE ON THIS JOURNEY. YOU MAY FEEL ISOLATED BUT AS YOU SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP YOU WILL FIND THAT MANY SHARE YOU EXPERIENCES AND HELP AND SUPPORT IS AVAILABLE. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

  • PARTNERS TYPICALLY NEED HELP IN THE RECOVERY PROCESS JUST AS MUCH AS THE RECOVERING PARTNER DOES. FOR BOTH MALE AND FEMALE PARTNERS OF A PORNOGRAPHY USER, THEIR OWN SELF ESTEEM AND ABILITY TO BECOME AROUSED AND FEEL A DESIRE TO BE SEXUAL IS HURT. AT STEADFAST WE HAVE PROGRAMS IN PLACE TO HELP PARTNERS HEAL BOTH MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY FROM TRAUMA ASSOCIATED WITH THE BETRAYAL OF PARTNER PORNOGRAPHY USE.

  • THESE FEELINGS ARE COMPLETELY NORMAL. WHEN A PARTNER IS VIEWING PORNOGRAPHY AND THE OTHER IS NOT, A LOT OF MIXED FEELINGS OCCUR. THE BEST ROUTE IS TO TAKE SOME SPACE AND TALK TOGETHER ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING AND WORK TOGETHER WITH A PROFESSIONAL TO UNDERSTAND WHAT KINDS OF BOUNDARIES CAN HELP YOU HEAL AND RETURN TO A HEALTHY SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.

  • LEARNING OF A PARTNER'S PORNOGRAPHY USE CAN BE DEVASTATING AND EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTING. WHILE MANAGING YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES, IT CAN BE EASY TO NEGLECT OURSELVES AND OUR HEALING. SELF-CARE AND SELF-COMPASSION IS CRUCIAL FOR YOUR RECOVERY AND YOUR PARTNER'S. TAKING TIME TO HEAL AND UNDERSTAND YOURSELF EMOTIONALLY, SEXUALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY IS VERY IMPORTANT.

    UNDERSTANDING WHAT STABILITY LOOKS LIKE FOR YOU IS AN IMPORTANT PART OF THIS JOURNEY. SETTING BOUNDARIES AND TAKING TIME TO UNDERSTAND YOURSELF WILL HELP YOU TO FEEL STABLE.

    PORNOGRAPHY USE IN A RELATIONSHIP CAN BE PAINFUL AND LEAD TO FEELINGS OF WORTHLESSNESS AND SHAME. YOU CAN AND YOU WILL OVERCOME THIS IF YOU REACH OUT FOR HELP. HOPE IS ON THE WAY.